It is normal for parents to worry.
As parents, it’s completely natural to worry about our kids. We want them to be safe, happy, and successful. And yet because we care so much about their wellbeing, it is normal to worry. And this emotion can feel intense at times and also, trigger reactive behaviours.
A health issue. Not being invited to a party. Failing to make the ‘A’ team. Everyday situations can activate memories from our own childhood that were painful. These memories can trigger distressing emotions, including worry, without even being aware of the underlying energetic trigger. And these memories can not only keep you stuck, but also knock the fun out of things for your child. For example, your child’s sports career can turn out to be limited if they experience your distress every time they fail to make a cut.
While worry is normal, constant worry can take a toll on both your well-being and your relationship with your children. Fortunately, Logosynthesis® offers a powerful coaching model to help you release these worries to be calmer and more present for your children.
Let’s explore why it’s important to stop worrying and how you can do it with Logosynthesis®.
Why Let Go of Worry?
1. Reclaim Your Energy: Worrying is exhausting. It drains your mental and emotional energy, leaving you feeling depleted. By letting go of worry, you can redirect your energy towards more positive and fulfilling activities.
2. Improve Outcomes: Worrying doesn’t change the outcome of any situation. It keeps you stuck in a cycle of fear and anxiety. Letting go of worry allows you to focus on constructive actions that can actually make a difference.
3. Strengthen Relationships: Constant worry can strain your relationship with your children. It can lead to overprotectiveness and control, which can stifle their independence. Letting go of worry fosters a healthier, more supportive relationship.
4. Be a Role Model: Children learn by observing their parents. By dissolving your worry and demonstrating calmness, you teach your kids how to handle stress and anxiety in their own lives.
How to Stop Worrying by using Logosynthesis
Logosynthesis® is a coaching and psychotherapeutic model that shifts the energy in distressing memories, beliefs and fantasies (mental imagery) to calm distressing emotions. Here’s a simple guide on how to use Logosynthesis® to stop worrying about your kids:
1. Identify Your Worry: Start by pinpointing the specific worry you have about your kids. For example, “I’m worried my child won’t make friends at school” or “I’m afraid my child might get hurt.” Allow yourself to get in touch with the associated thoughts, emotions and physical sensations.
2. Rate the Intensity: Rate the intensity of your worry on a scale from 0 to 10. This helps you track your progress.
3. Notice the associated mental imagery: When you are connected to the distress, you will notice mental imagery in the space around you. The arising memory, belief or fantasy is then shifted using the Logosynthesis® sentences.
4. Use the Logosynthesis® Sentences: Logosynthesis® uses the power of words in specific sentences to shift the energy in the arising mental imagery.
5. Notice what shifts and repeat: After saying the sentences, take a few moments to reflect on any changes in your thoughts, emotions and physical sensations. You might notice a shift in your perspective or a reduction in the intensity of your worry. If necessary, repeat the process until you feel a significant decrease in worry.
5. Embrace the Change: Once you feel a shift, integrate this new, calmer perspective into your daily life. Remind yourself of the peaceful mindset you’ve gained and practice it regularly.
If you wish to experience what can shift using this Logosynthesis® Basic Procedure, you can use the guided video below.
A personal example.
I was introduced to Logosynthesis® when my daughters were in their pre-teen and teenage years. During this period and until now, I frequently used the model to calm worry. One aspect that was very beneficial related to sports, especially their team sports of soccer, basketball and rugby.
When my daughters played competitively on teams, I struggled. I often felt tense and worried whether they would be good enough to play at a top level: “What if they miss a shot?” “If they don’t get enough playing time, they won’t improve.” “They should work hard to be the best on the team!”
Sitting on the sidelines could feel intense, and at times I would yell out instructions and commentary: “Kick the ball!”, “Run faster.” “Good job!”
As I paid attention to my reactions related to their sports, I realized that much of my worry was triggered by my own memories of not being good enough on my teams. I was a small player who struggled with sports. I initially made the volleyball team because my sister was a strong player. The basketball hoop seemed unreachable to me. Watching my daughters play sports brought back many of the old emotions and I didn’t want them to have those experiences.
However the good news was that using Logosynthesis, I could simply shift these memories so they didn’t continue to activate worry and unwanted reactions. I was able to be more relaxed and present during their games. And I attribute the personal work that I did to enjoy their games more fully, as a key reason why they continue to love to play team sports, now at a varsity level.
Parent with less worrying!
You can use Logosynthesis® to release the energy tied up in worrying about your kids and to allow more supportive interactions. This not only benefits your well-being but also creates a healthier environment for your children. Remember, letting go of worry doesn’t mean you care any less about your kids—it means you’re choosing to care in a healthier, more effective way.
There are resources available to guide you on your parenting journey using Logosynthesis®. You don’t need to do it alone. Here are some steps you can take to get started: