How reactions can get in the way during the pandemic and how to change them.

Why it is important to be aware of our reactions: Our reactions can get in the way of what is beneficial for our own health and wellness. Yet our reactions are often based on conditioned responses. We often don’t recognize them. We focus on changing things around us to make us feel better. It can be liberating to be able to change our reactions. We can then focus our energy on meaningful action. Learning to resolve our automatic responses also … Read More

How to not lose my cool.

I don’t like to lose my cool. When life gets busy and demanding, I have been known to lose my cool. It is not something that I like to admit but I notice it in the tone of my voice, the tension in my jaw and the squinting of my eyes. I get in a reactive mode and in the moment, my concern is not about the feelings of others but rather that others pay attention to me. And although … Read More

One Photo – Multiple Reactions

One photo has the power to spark very different reactions in people. My reactions are based on my experiences and my beliefs, which are part of the family and the community in which I live.  One photo can feel fun and playful to one person and yet trigger very raw feelings of distress in another. My work is to resolve the perceptions that trigger my reactions so that I can have a higher level of compassion to support others to … Read More

Learning how to heal trauma.

Recognizing our natural reactions. Trauma. My natural reaction to the word is to close in, back away and shut up. It is not comfortable for me to talk about suffering and I don’t like to talk about things that are not comfortable. I was born into a culture and a family where we didn’t spend a lot of time talking about our emotions or our reactions. I learned to be resilient. I handed my suffering to God and moved on … Read More

Is fear real power?

“Real power is, I don’t even want to use the word: ‘Fear.’” Presidential Candidate Donald J. Trump in an interview with Bill Woodward and Robert Costa, March 31, 2016 Fear is a derailer ‘Is fear real power?’ Certainly many will respond with a ‘Yes’ because it triggers a response and it drives action. But fear simply implies ‘power over others’. Fear relies on position and authority to trigger reactions in others. Fear does not allow space for others to generate … Read More

How to improve productivity? Resolve reactions to the word ‘should’.

Why improve productivity? Improving productivity allows us to achieve more with less. We often think of this as achieving more financial benefit with less of the organization’s financial resources.  There is also great opportunity to achieve more with less of our personal resources. Think for a moment of the time and/or energy that goes in to building our personal resources: exercise; healthy eating; sleep and others. Significant energy expenditure in order to build our personal resources to have energy available … Read More

How to build self-reliance, resilience and self-awareness.

  Confidence through experience is crucial. Self-reliance, resilience and self-awareness are all rooted in experiences. To be reliant on our own efforts and abilities requires that we gain confidence through our experiences. This confidence influences our resiliency, known as our ability to recover or adjust to misfortune or change. This confidence also influences our own awareness of our behaviour and emotional characteristics. Self-reliance supports growth. In the book Sapiens: A Brief History of Humankind (Harari, 2015), the author makes the argument that … Read More

Preferred treatment for anxiety – Logosynthesis

Anxiety is common in Canada. According to the Public Health Agency of Canada, mood and/or anxiety disorders are common and individuals are active in learning more about the condition: In 2013, an estimated 3 million Canadians (11.6%) aged 18 years or older reported that they had a mood and/or anxiety disorder. Most people with mood and/or anxiety disorder(s) are currently taking, or have taken, prescription medication(s) (93%), but few (20%) have received psychological counselling to help manage their disorder(s). 83% said that … Read More

MYActionsMatter

Actions are often reactions: MYActionsMatter is a campaign by the Government of Canada to mark 16 days of activism against gender-based violence. The theme provides a strong callout to reinforce that our actions are not just meaningless behaviours. Our actions make a difference to everyone around us. The actions highlighted in the campaign messaging are common behaviours that are often excused or discounted. We think that we are making deliberate actions when in fact, most of these behaviours are reactive … Read More

The Wonder of Wonder. Reframing our Beliefs with Logosynthesis.

We like to fix things, take action and solve problems. Logosynthesis can support us to challenge these beliefs. We live in a culture where we are praised for having passion to do things right and to do the right things. The more demanding the situation, the harder we work. It can take a great deal of energy and yet we continue to be faced with the same repetitive issues. What if we do nothing and avoid the situation. That doesn’t feel … Read More

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