How to not lose my cool.

I don’t like to lose my cool.

I have been known to lose my cool when life gets busy and demands are urgent. It is not something that I like to admit but I notice it in the tone of my voice, the tension in my jaw and the squinting of my eyes. I get in a reactive mode and in the moment, my concern is not about the feelings of others but rather that others pay attention to me. And although it may only happen occasionally, my reactions can do serious damage to relationships that are important to me.

Demands are high.

There is no doubt that we live in a rapidly changing world and demands are high! We look to introduce diversity into workplaces and communities. We find comfort in things that are familiar yet we look to introduce the unfamiliar. Our natural response to ‘new’ and ‘different’ is not normally one of ease. It takes adjustment to move to a new norm. This can certainly feel stressful and for some, it can feel intense.

We all get triggered.

Our distress can be noticed in our thoughts, our emotions and in sensations in our body. However, the intensity of the distress is not the same for each of us. While one person may feel worried and have tight shoulders, another may be triggered in the same situation with intense feelings of fear and pounding headaches or an inability to breath. Therefore it is very difficult for someone who isn’t triggered at the same intensity level to have compassion for what the other person is experiencing.

Resolve the reaction.

Dr. Willem Lammers, a Swiss-Dutch psychologist, has worked extensively with clients experiencing trauma and anxiety. He has discovered that the trigger to the symptoms is a sensory perception which resides in our personal space. What is even more exciting about his work is that he discovered that using the age-old power of words, specific sentences shift the sensory perception so that it no longer triggers the distressing response. When the trigger is gone, the feelings of distress are eliminated and the repetitive patterns of behaviour are resolved.

I can break the ‘lose my cool’ pattern.

We do have many sensory perceptions that trigger responses so learning to apply the fast and easy technique on a routine basis allows a subtle yet powerful shift to resolve my reactions. The same technique can be applied to triggers for any type of distress! In addition, I now have more appreciation for what triggers others to react.

Logosynthesis® is fast, easy and effective to resolve my perceptual triggers!  I have learned how powerful it can be to resolve these triggers to shift limiting beliefs, painful memories and notions about how things ‘should be’. I often describe the work as the ability to feel ‘calm in the midst of chaos’. Rather than reacting to forces I cannot change, I have experienced the power in being able to focus and act.

Get started with these resources:

Check out these resources to get you started. You can also watch the guided video below to experience what can shift. Firstly, grab a glass of water and find a quiet, uninterrupted place. Allow at least 30 minutes so that you are not rushed. And then, simply follow my guidance on the video. Energy shifts can feel subtle or intense, so take some time to notice what shifts over the next few days and weeks. Enjoy!