Actions are often reactions:
MYActionsMatter is a campaign by the Government of Canada to mark 16 days of activism against gender-based violence. The theme provides a strong callout to reinforce that our actions are not just meaningless behaviours. Our actions make a difference to everyone around us. The actions highlighted in the campaign messaging are common behaviours that are often excused or discounted. We think that we are making deliberate actions when in fact, most of these behaviours are reactive tendencies. The way women are addressed, treated and viewed is based on the norms of the families, environments and cultures in which we were raised.
Reactions are dictated by feelings not thinking.
As a society, we invest significant resources to educate about acceptable behaviour. Yet abuse happens. We are not aware of the triggers to our reactive behaviours so we are doomed to repeat, either as habitual patterns or one-off dramatic episodes. We each have our individual experiences which form our individual energetic framework. When things don’t match our expectations and norms, we feel it. We may not be able to explain it, but we feel it. I have come to realize how deeply I my parenting and work styles are based on my beliefs rather than my knowledge. I think I am acting rationally but in reality, I am reacting to very habitual patterns.
To change our reactions, we need to release the triggers.
What if we could locate and release the triggers to these habitual patterns? What if rather than having to catch ourselves in the heat of the moment, we were not activated to react in the moment? What if we no longer mindlessly repeated habitual patterns, validated with ‘it’s just…’ excuses? Logosynthesis, developed by Dr. Willem Lammers, provides a guided method to effectively locate triggers that exist as sensory perceptions (images, sounds, representations, etc) in our personal space. Using the power of words through a series of sentences, the energy in the sensory perceptions shifts so that it no longer activates a response. We can effectively release our triggers to react.
The challenge is that we don’t see the issue.
MYActionsMatter reinforces an important aspect of gender-based violence. We don’t recognize the issue. We claim that the indiscretion is only just a touch, a word or a joke. We believe that our actions are justified and that the other individual is overreacting. Our experiences have provided us with an unwritten rule book about what is acceptable and normal. As we begin to work with Logosynthesis, we can raise our awareness of the energy structures that form our beliefs.
MYActionsMatter highlights my responsibility.
MYActionsMatter also reinforces that using the excuse that ‘It’s just the way I am’ is not acceptable. We need to take ownership for our behaviour and we need effective tools to support this process. We need to release the energy that causes us to feel the emotions that drive our behaviour. Logosynthesis is a compassionate, effective tool to release the sensory perceptions which influence our actions and form our beliefs. We all react, we all have opinions and we all hold beliefs that influence our actions. We all have the opportunity to release the triggers to our habitual reactive behaviours and beliefs, not only to reduce gender based violence but to enjoy life more fully. To learn more this beautiful philosophy and method, contact me.